When A Friendship Ends, Why Is The Cause Either A Man or Money?

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I am not sure why so many women end life long friendships over men or money. For the most part they do not want to admit that a man came between their friendships but they will admit the fact that money was the culprit. I made it a life long philosophy early on to never let friends or family members "borrow" money. If I don't have the money to give away, I cannot let you borrow it.  It has proven to work very well for me.  I have watched many relationships end over men or money and it saddens me. When I was a teenager I started dating someone my best friend liked. I knew at the time that she liked him but I started dating him anyway and needless to say my friendship ended with her.  I always regretted our friendship ending.  It turned out that he was not worth either one of our times but she held a grudge against me all through high school and we never spoke to each other again. Be it men or money, a friendship should be stronger than either one of those things. I guess since a friendship is based on trust and if one friend cannot trust the other with their money or their man, the relationship is over. Money has ended the friendship between men as well; people place a lot of value on money more so than their friendships at times. Is this something we are being taught?  So have you ended a friendship over a "man" or "money"? Let me know if this is a topic you would like to discuss on the show and if you would be willing to share your story. Warm regards, Dina Harbour, Extraordinaire CEO & Host of Women Obtaining Wealth Women Obtaining Wealth Organization W.O.W. Internet Radio Show, Sundays @ 9p EST Call-In # (646) 478-5836 Stay Connected to W.O.W. download our customized toolbar today!

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The Post Holiday Blues- Going Into Debt All In The Name Of Love

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The holiday season is always a bittersweet time for me. As a Financial Literacy Coach, I often get an overwhelming amount of new clients towards the end of January beginning of February in panic mode. The stories all start out like this, "I spent way too much money this year.” How did a holiday season that is suppose to celebrate love, family, and friendship turn into a time when people feel OBLIGATED to buy things they cannot afford?
I am so thankful that my parents taught me that giving love, time, and gifts is a year-round sentiment. They also never made me feel obligated to buy them gifts during any particular holiday season.
Each year I watch children scream and demand various toys for their parents to buy and each year there is a "hot" toy that every child must have. The sad thing about it is, their parents rush stores sometimes pushing and raving to buy these items that they know they cannot really afford. So what do they do? They pull out credit cards, skip a bill, and borrow to get this toy that will be set aside the next time something new and improve comes along.
I recently returned from visiting my family for Thanksgiving. Now this holiday seems to be celebrated in a fashion that I can agree with. When I returned I went through my pre-recorded news programs that were recorded while I was away. Sadly a news reporter described how a man that had no prior criminal record attempted to rob an armor truck outside the mall in my area. His behavior led to shots being fired, people being hurt, and being thrown in jail. His wife refused to be interviewed and I sat there in horror. My family and I visit this mall often. It terrifies me to think that this man felt that having money during this holiday season was worth this vicious act. How did you SPEND the holidays? Do you have the blues?

By:
Dina Harbour
Financial Literacy Coach

Controlling the Environment In Which You Dream

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In listening to an interview on one of my many mentors, I heard him talking about the importance of controlling one’s environment. I found this fascinating because I felt such a strong desire to move away from my immediate family and start over in another state where I barely knew anyone.

While he was speaking I realized that I used my move to control my surroundings. I felt that the people and things that I was encountering on a daily basis were toxic. My job was draining my creativity because more and more I had to conform to management standards of operation and procedures. Even when I tried to introduce more effective procedures (what I was hired to do) they were reluctant to implement the changes. It was like fighting with your parents. Who do you think is going to win?

Other visual and personal things were going on as well. So I decided that a change in scenery and career was what I had to do. Leaving a “good” job and the security of close family and friends are not easy but sometimes very necessary for growth to occur.

In bringing in this New Year, I hope you take a moment to examine your environment. Look around you. Are you watching too much negative television, chatting too much with friends about negative issues, hating your job? Try making changes to your life that will lead you in the direction of your heart and your purpose. The journey is truly rewarding.

By: Dina Harbour, ExtraoDINAire
Financial Literacy Coach

A Place To Call Home -Why Single Mothers Should Own A Home

Written by: Dina Harbour

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I can’t put my finger on it exactly but it is something special about going home. A home can represent a lot of things but for me, home is my security blanket. It is the place that I grew up, ran up and down the street, learned how to dance, skate, and ride my first bike.

My parents bought out home shortly after I was born. My Mom still lives there to this day and it makes me smile. Buying a home is something I always wanted to do. It just made sense to me. It took me 31 years before I could buy a home. Why did it take me so long to purchase a home when I wanted one so badly?

Well, no one taught me how to buy a home. I was employed and made a decent salary but I didn’t know all the rules and/or requirements. When I did find out what was required I hadn’t saved up enough money for the down payment. Plus I was carrying to much debt.

Later in my discovery I learned that ALL wealthy people own real estate. Most Millionaires make their money from buying, renting and/or selling this asset. It took me 31 years to own my first piece of property and it was the best investment I could have made back in the year of 2000.

Since then however, I’ve experienced and learned so many valuable lessons about owning real estate. Because of my knowledge, I became a Real Estate Agent and Investor. Also, in sadness I’ve watched good people loose their homes while the housing market took a crazy dive.

Regardless of these unfortunate situations people are still using real estate as one of their most popular vehicles to building wealth. They have the REAL information needed to make real estate much more than a home, but also a pertinent asset. Just because the economy is not in the best shape doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t own real estate. People still need a place to call home more so now than ever before. Do you have one to call your own?

When You Finally Get It, Will It Be To Late?

Written by: Dina Harbour

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I sent a text message to a good friend of mine that lives in California. We met in 2000 at DeVry Institute. She graduated and I didn’t. But we stayed friends through the years and I value our friendship. I was at her graduation and was truly happy for her. At the time, I was already working in the “information systems” industry and she wasn’t.

Soon after graduating, she became a Mom and we talked about her financial future. She has been married to her husband for about 13-14 years now and they have done “ok” financially but not enough to purchase a home. I’d purchase my first home in 2000, so I was explaining to her the process and things she should do to make homeownership a reality for her and her family.

Fast-forward eight years later, she is making more money than before. However, she is still living in an apartment and now going crazy with a busy 5 year-old son. She is still married and dealing with a new car note payment that her husband insisted on. He raised the issue that he had never owned a brand new car. So each tax year, they owe in taxes because they make to much money without having enough tax write-offs or deductions.

Without saying, “I told you so” I simply expressed concern and gave her some suggestions. I explained to her that like it or not, tax wise the government reward those who do things that they agree with for example owning property, a business, and/or having a family. Otherwise you pay a lot of taxes.
Is it to late for my friend to turn things around? No, not really but she has a lot of work to do. Most important, she has to make better decisions now to have the things she wants in the future.

Now decide to have an excellent day!

How To Check Back-In, When Your Mind Has Checked-Out

Written by: Dina Harbour
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I can remember back when I was living in California how my mind would just temporarily checkout. I would be driving my long commute from Long Beach back to Los Angeles and I would not remember driving to my exit. Scary-huh? It’s true I was driving (safely) but my mind was somewhere else. Miraculously, I would snap to it just before my exit and would literally “thank God” that he was watching over me.
Has that ever happen to you? Can you remember a time when you were so burdened with life’s daily task, demands, and/or responsibilities that you just mentally checked-out? I knew in my heart that I had to make some changes in my life, but I keep putting them off. It wasn’t until I lost two brothers, two months a part that I knew I could not continue to live life as I did before. So at the end of that same year, I sold my home and by January of the next year I had moved to a new state, a brand new home, and started life totally “checked-in.”
It’s not easy to make changes, especially drastic ones like I did. I lost the comfort of a “good job”, and distance away from the only place I’d ever known as home. I even lost communication with a lot of my associates and friends, but my gains were so much more valuable than all my losses combined. Fear usually tells us a different story, don’t believe him. Make sure you’re mind is checked-in today and that you’re living a momentous life.

Have a purposeful day!